Saturday, February 14, 2015

Pinterest Party Post #2

It's my second ever Pinterest Pin Party! I'd really love it if this took off... and I'm sure that it will! I just know that you all have something you'd love to share! So please take a minute and share the best pin you found this week!

Here's mine! It's from a friend of mine actually. She just started this 30 Day Squat challenge this past Monday (2/9), so we're on day 6 already. And tell ya what... those butt muscles are lovin it! See how I do and I might actually share the before and after with you!



I can't wait to see what you share this week!



See you next week; same time, same place! Happy Pinning!


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Friday, February 13, 2015

5 Reasons Not To Celebrate Valentine's Day


I don't think Husband and I have ever really celebrated Valentine's Day. We 'got together' just four days before the official first one, and our wedding anniversary is just 8 days before the holiday. I've never really understood the whole thing anyway. Why spend one day celebrating love, when you can celebrate it everyday? And I think we do a pretty good job of that. But if you must have 'reasons' not to worry about this date on the calendar, please... do read on.

  1. It's commercialism wrapped up in a bright bow. We buy the chocolates, the cards, the flowers and the wine, buying right into it too. So next year, the corporate monsters will go even bigger. 
  2. It's a shallow attempt to try and make the Ms. or Mr. Right Now happy. It's suppose to be some kind of guarantee on a romantic date. A conformation that we are the most important thing in their world. 
  3. The calorie count in those chocolates. Or that wine, the dinner out or any other sweet thing you may have gifted to you out of love. 
  4. The flowers will inevitable wilt. They'll end up being a sad reminder that your love was confined to a single day. And it only gets worse if you have allergies. Besides, why buy something that's already dead? 
  5. What is the point of stuffed animals? No really. I don't get it. They just take up space and get all dusty. Just one more thing to clean. 
Now, does this mean we should just give up on romance all together? Absolutely not. If you love your partner you make it known every single day. And more than once. Here are a few suggestions: 
  1. Tell them you love them. Often. Multiple times a day. Every time you talk on the phone, catch them looking at you, leave the room... and never let them leave for work in the morning without hearing it. 
  2. Kiss them every chance you get. We actually get complaints that we're entirely too gushy and kissy for having been married for 15 years. 
  3. In fact, be in contact with them as often as possible. We're still all cuddly too. We hold hands on the couch when watching TV, in the car, through the store... if he is within reach I'm touching him.
  4. Do something unexpected. Even if its just doing the laundry so he doesn't have too. Cook a special meal for no reason at all. Rent a movie you know he'd like to see. Sometimes its just the little things. 
  5. Spread the Love. Don't limit the spreading of love to just your significant other. Think about all those who matter to you. Your children, your family, your friends. (Of course you'll want to adjust your sentiments accordingly.) 
So there you have it. Don't wait until the calendar tells you its okay to show a little love. Make everyday Valentine's Day. A little love never hurt anyone. 


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Thursday, February 12, 2015

The Struggle To Be A Good Housewife

I was once a stay at home mom for four years, yet I never mastered the concept of housework. Even to this day I have issues with this area of my job description. Sure I can do the dishes, run the laundry and dust the pictures on the wall. Just don’t ask me to do it all in one week. Because along with the menial chore list there’s the cooking, the planning and the chauffeuring to work around as well. Not to mention my 38 hours at an actual paying job each week.

Even over the summer when I am less one child, I still can’t manage to get it all done when it is suppose to be done. In fact, my husband (the amazing man that he is) tends to pick up the slack, which seems to be a bunch, especially when it comes to laundry. But of course, he has to leave the house to go to work and would like clean clothes to arrive in. Not to mention that I have another two who need clean clothes on a regular basis. And then there is me to top it all off. Oh how I miss having the luxury of working in my pajamas!

See, I tell myself that I have work to do, that there must be something that needs to be done. It'll only take a few hours and then I'll be free. But what usually starts off as a small chore magically warps into an hours long endeavor to rid the closet of all clutter, or the girls' drawers of all out-grown clothes, or cleaning the refrigerator (shutter). Then I look at the clock and think to myself “Oh sh*t! It’s time to pick up the kid and I've accomplished nothing today!”. Which is typically followed up a few hours later with “Oh sh*t! The husband is on his way home and I haven’t started dinner yet!”.

So why is it that I have such a hard time getting a handle on this thing called housework? I’m not sure I can tell you. But I can tell you that today… I scrubbed my kitchen, polished the furniture, dusted the blinds, and even did one load of laundry (at which point the husband took over). It was a good day, and I feel as if I accomplished something.

Let’s see how it progresses tomorrow…

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Wednesday, February 11, 2015

5 Things To Remember When Raising Kids With Manners

We all have interaction through out the day with various types of people. Family, friends, strangers. Some of them pleasant and some of them not so much. But what I notice most is the lack of manners and consideration. Though what riles me more than anything is the lack of parenting today. And a part of me wonders how these children are going to make it in this crazy world of ours. Or what they may turn it into.

I am so very grateful that I have children with manners and respect. Rarely do we go out and I don't get a compliment on my kids. Which says something in and of its self, don't you think? So this got me thinking about what I do differently. And this is what I came up with:
  1. I Teach Manners Through Example - Your children watch everything you do. They soak your actions up like a super sponge. So while we should absolutely teach the purpose behind "please" and "thank you" you should try to demonstrate the principle as often as possible.
  2. I Set Boundaries - In everything they do. From TV to books, from the playground to the grocery store. Your child needs to know what their boundaries are. No, you may not run around the store like a mad man. No, you can't have that, in fact you shouldn't even have asked. Sit down proper in the booth at the restaurant. Yada, yada, yada. 
  3. I Create Expectations - We have this little test in my home when it comes to the girls cleaning their room. We ask if its clean and they say yes. Then we ask if its clean to Mommy's standards, and almost always they turn back around and head back to their room. They know what I expect and when they haven't met those expectations. This is in almost everything they do. From grades to chores to extra curriculars. 
  4. I Teach Respect & Consideration - Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I also teach my girls to respect those around them. And not just those that are older than they are. Your peers, your little sister, the kid on the stairs. We respect the waitress at the restaurant, the cashier at the grocery store and anyone else we come in contact with. 
  5. I Give Them Responsibility - Start small with putting toys away and grow from there. But also, they should have responsibility in the real world too. Let them decide what they'll have at the restaurant and then let them order it. Let them interact with the world and the people around them. Help them make decisions. Help them see how their decisions will affect others around them.
I would hope that everyone would have future society in mind when raising their children. That they would understand that eventually you'll have to let them go off into the real world, and eventually they are the ones who are going to be running the show. A little lesson in consideration and manners can go a long way I think. 

How about you? Does this list seem right up your alley? Or do you think I expect too much? Would you have anything to add? Please, by all means... I'm all ears! 


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Sunday, February 8, 2015

Is A Faithless Marriage Still A Marriage?

If you've perused my blog at all, or if you've been following me for a while, then you know I have a tendency to rant. And usually those rants are of a political nature. They are usually about religion in government or the alienation of rights for certain groups, which almost always comes back to the former. This little rant will be no different.

It seems that there is an Oklahoma lawmaker who feels the need to alienate non-Christians by taking away their right to marry. That's right. He's actually introduced a bill that says if you don't get married in a church and/or by a member of clergy then you don't get to be married at all. You would have to have a spiritual union to be recognized by the state of Oklahoma.

Those of us who are not Christians can instead file for a common-law marriage. The one thing he doesn't point out is that Oklahoma doesn't actually recognize common-law marriages. So there's that.

What I don't understand is why everyone is so up in arms about the whole marriage thing anyway? Its a legal union first and foremost. Its the legality of the act that garners you several benefits, most of which are regulated by the government. The licensing and filing of a piece of paper is so that government can keep tabs on you. What about any of this is spiritual? None. Unless you want your marriage validated by your faith. In which case, more power to you. But whether or not it was conducted in front of a member of clergy doesn't matter one iota to the IRS, your insurance company or even to your military commander.

And I don't want to even hear about how spiritual marriage was around before government took over. In all actuality, it began as nothing more than a business transaction. You have something I need to make it through the winter, so here... marry my daughter and now we're family and what's yours is mine. Right? 

In ancient Greece the legal wife was only good for child baring and housekeeping. Sex for pleasure, or any other need was fulfilled by concubines. In many cultures marriage could also act as a peace treaty between cultures, families, countries... whatever. Some allowed for multiple wives so that all of the wifely duties would be seen too. With just one wife it would never all get done (something I can totally relate too). 

There were dozens of reasons to get married throughout the ages. Not a one of them was spiritual in nature. Unless you count the ghost marriages of China. That would be where you married off an unwed, yet dead family member to another equally unwed and dead person of another family. Usually in order to create alliances between families. See? Back to that business transaction thing again. 

It wasn't until the last half of the 16th century that the church felt the need to impose their rules on the act. It is thought that the idea of marriage has been around for more than 4000 years. And its only been about 450 years since the Catholic Church deemed it a 'spiritual' union. That's a relatively small fraction of time in the grand scheme of things. So why does the church (any church, not just the Catholic Church) feel that they have the market cornered on marriage? 

I have no idea. But this is getting a little ridiculous if you ask me. 


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Saturday, February 7, 2015

Pinterest Party Post #1!

So I've been learning a lot from this great little blog Blogging On The Side. And one of the things I've absolutely fallen in love with is her Pin-It Party! There are actually three different hosts and they all host it together on their respective blogs. I'm all by lonesome (at least for now) but I still wanted to get my party on...

So here it is! My first Pinterest Party Post!

How it works... I find a pin from the last week that I especially liked, for whatever reason, and share with you! Then I have a little linky list at the bottom and you share your favorites with me and everyone else!




Researching my future Earthship this week led to this beautiful pin. I love that these images are from an Earthship but aren't so rustic as most I've seen. I'm not exactly a rustic kinda girl. I love my modern style and love that I won't have to compromise so much on it. Plus... I love that bathroom! 

So what did you find this week on your pinterest travels? Link 'em below and share with the crowd!






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Friday, February 6, 2015

Hypocrite With A Gun

I want to get something off of my chest. It won't be a huge surprise to most of you that I absolutely hate guns. I mean really, really, really hate them.

I've been out of the parental nest for eighteen years and have never felt the need to own one. Until now. And I hate that feeling more than I actually hate guns.

The worst part about it is that I feel like a hypocrite. Even though its basically been proven that having guns in the house doesn't actually make you safer, that it may actually increase the chances of violence happening in the home, I'm going to feel safer. I'm just not sure that its a fair trade off.

But here is the the thing. We haven't actually started shopping for a gun yet, we have started looking for a gun safe though. Because the number one priority for my home is safety.

When I hear about parents leaving loaded guns on beds, in glove compartments, in a nightstand... it chills me to the bone. These stories break my heart. More than that though, they down right anger me. And with each new story I just get angrier. And I'm not exaggerating when I say that these parents should be charged with neglect and child endangerment.

I refuse to be one of those parents.

My children will be taught the same as I was growing up. "We have a gun. We keep it here. Do. Not. Touch. It." And then it will be locked in a box.  

Unfortunately, having a gun in the house also means I need to learn how to shoot it. And when the girls are old enough, and I'm talking sixteen at the earliest, they will too. I don't want to. At. All. But I will. 

This is the world we live in today. And until we can go off grid with our earthship and gardens, I have to face that reality. 

What do you think about guns in the home? Have you considered it? Do you already? Or will you never? I'd love to hear your take on the whole thing. 


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